Coaching: Let’s Talk About Sex (and Relationships)
Available for Individuals, People in Relationships (especially complicated relationships) and Groups
You don’t have to figure this out alone.
Many of us learned about sexuality through silence, stereotypes, or misinformation. That can leave us unsure how to talk about what we want, how to navigate desire, or how to build relationships that truly fit. Even worse, it can cause problems that are based on misinformation.
In coaching, we create a thoughtful, judgment-free space to explore your questions, clarify your values, add some accurate information, and build skills that help you live and love more fully.
Coaching is not about fixing you. It’s about understanding you, and supporting your journey to your goals.
We work together to untangle limiting beliefs, strengthen communication, deepen connection, and increase pleasure — all grounded in accurate information and respect for your lived experience.
Coaching and Program Consultations available
I have broad experience with deeper experience and focus in:
- Exploring who you are as a sexual being, including exploring your sexual identity and what you are learning about yourself
- Dealing with limiting beliefs and trauma
- Relationship issues including: finding partners and friends, discussing difficult topics, trust, and resentment concerns
- Consensual non-monogamy/polyamory
- Mismatched desire and concerns about sexual desire issues
- Figuring out what works for you, and getting more of that in your life and relationships
- How to put some “sprinkles” on what is now pretty vanilla
Differences between coaching and counseling
Coaching is a non-medical approach to support you to make changes and achieve goals. We assume there is not untreated clinical issues or deep emotional imbalance that might make you unavailable to deal with our “work.” I do have clients who also see a counselor or therapist for support with mental health concerns and work with me on specific sexuality or relationship issues, and that can work very well since not all counselors and therapists are trained to work in sexuality.
Coaching is goal oriented, and action focused. I will provide resources for learning, reflecting, and achieving your goals. Sometimes that will look like homework or opportunities to practice something between our sessions. Coaching is typically more short term than counseling. Often, we can get to the shifts you are looking for in three to four sessions. Sometimes, folks stay on a monthly “maintenance program.”
Who Coaching is For?
Coaching may be a good fit if you:
- Trying to discover what you truly want and how to ask for it
- Wanting to attract a partner who aligns with your values and needs
- Navigating consent, boundaries, and power dynamics
- Experiencing mismatched desire in a relationship
- Working to rebuild trust after harm or rupture
- Considering or opening into consensual non-monogamy
- Feeling stuck in patterns you’re ready to change
- Wanting more clarity, confidence, and joy in your intimate life
Coaching isn’t only for crisis or repair; it’s for growth.
Sometimes a quiet question is enough to begin.
Wanting clarity is a meaningful reason.
You can seek support simply because you care about your life and relationships.
You deserve support in building the life you want.
Example Session Package: DISCOVERING WHAT YOU WANT, ASKING FOR IT, AND GETTING IT – 5 sessions
1. Introduction and Goal Setting
2. Love, and Arousal
3. Your Desires and Needs
4. Needs and Requests for Partner(s)
5. Communicating With Partner(s)
60-90 minute sessions online or in-person
TALK, LEARN, APPLY
I love working with couples, pods, and groups as well as individuals. I am available for online single-sessions and series of sessions. Keep on the lookout for my Master Coaching Programs as well!
Honest Sex Education Starts at Home.
Because family is the most powerful influence in a child’s learning.
Attend an in-person or virtual learning and practice session to help you answer kids’ questions about sex with clarity and confidence.
Learn what to say, how to say it, and how to lead with honesty and heart.